Monday Motivation: Failure is an Option

For me, failure was always hard to accept. With NPD, nothing less than being seen as perfect was ok. The problem was nothing I did felt like success. I often felt my failures made me a bad person. That my many mistakes meant I could never succeed and then I had to remind myself of my favourite childhood quote from Paul “Bear” Bryant:  

“When you make a mistake, there are only three things you should ever do about it:

1. Admit it.

2. Learn from it, and

3. Don’t repeat it.”

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Mistakes didn’t mean I was bad, just that I should learn from them. It was ok not to know things; it was ok to have failure. Failure and mistakes are part of learning. It is part of the experience. As Adam Savage said, “Failure is always an option.” Being able to accept this option though took me some work.

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            I had to reframe my failure as a success. That each time I made a mistake, I really was on track to succeed. My failures aren’t failures, really. When I messed up, I simply just made another step to success.

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Striving to be perfect does not bring the admiration I desire. Being able to fail with grace, to be successful and admit my failings is not a bad thing. I do not think my mistakes make me a failure or a bad person. When I mess up, I learn from that and move on. It is ok to make mistakes.

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Failure is an option. Your mistakes are steps to success. They are not dark marks that make you a bad person. Learn from them, use them to grow and keep on staying motivated.

Love: A Biblical Essay written 2003

By Damien Knight

 Love is Kind and forgiving, for it is said: “Love covers over all wrongs.” Proverbs 10:12. Goodness is part of love. To eat plain with love surrounding you is better than to have steak in a room filled with bitterness. Love is understanding, “He who covers and offense promotes love.” Proverbs 17:9. Many seek out love, yes even I, “What a man desires is unending love.” Proverbs 19:22. And many claim their love never fails. Yes, men might fail but love is unfailing. I choose to fill my heart with love.

Wednesday Wisdom: Your Path

Wednesday Wisdom: Your Path

By Damien Knight

How often do you pray? Every day, once a week? What are you praying for? Perhaps you have a big test and you want to pass? Do you pray then? To who? God? Or maybe just to your cats? And when you don’t pass is it then their fault? After all you prayed right?

The truth is no one can save you better than yourself. I won’t touch religion exactly today if ever on this blog. I won’t…

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Wednesday Wisdom: Your Path

By Damien Knight

How often do you pray? Every day, once a week? What are you praying for? Perhaps you have a big test and you want to pass? Do you pray then? To who? God? Or maybe just to your cats? And when you don’t pass is it then their fault? After all you prayed right?

The truth is no one can save you better than yourself. I won’t touch religion exactly today if ever on this blog. I won’t tell you not to pray or believe in your god/s what I will tell you is you cannot rely on prayer or magic alone. You must forge your path.
The Secret often talks of the law of attraction. In essence, it is thinking things into existence. Prayer is like that but what is thought without action. You can pray that you pass a test but without study you will fail. That is why today’s Wednesday Wisdom is:

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Monday Motivation: Character

By Damien Knight

 

When we think of motivation, we talk a lot about light, moving into the light, seeking light, pursuing it. Light is always the goal. We then view struggle as our enemy and emotions as weapons against us. Pain, suffering, depression, we become swallowed in our cycle of pity and anguish and only light can save us. This, this then leads us to struggling to find light, light of course being happiness, prosperity and normalcy. We fight darkness, but is it our enemy?

I was evicted back in March 2017; the land-lord had tried several times to evict me for various claims and I finally stopped fighting her. I won’t claim I embraced despair. No one does but at this same time I had watched The Secret and I desperately wanted to believe in the power of attraction. I had put out to the universe that I wanted a house; I knew I had a lease I couldn’t break and, yet the universe found a way for me to break my lease.

So far, no darkness, but then I was unable to find a place, and I ended up essentially squatting in a house that had a bad roof and no floors in the kitchen. I loved the house itself and part of me wanted to buy it, but it wasn’t feasible. After just a month a familiar friend appeared. Depression, loneliness, despair. I have experienced many dark times in my past but this recent one I feel is where I mastered not fighting the darkness of agony.
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I have suffered many “Character Building” events. Truly to pursue the light one must stop fighting darkness and use it to build your character. Side note if you suffer clinical illness do not take my words to mean you should stop medicines. Please remember that medicine is a tool to keep us going just as much as any other means of motivation and for some it is what keeps us alive. STAY MOTIVATED!

 

 

Motivation Monday: Do the Impossible

-Damien

Before I start I want to give a small shout out to two people who helped me and Aaron achieve one of our ‘impossible’ dreams. Kelley McGough who stayed well past 9 pm working with us on paper work for our house and spent the entire days hunting down every property she could that might peak our interest, check her out if you happen to need a house in the bowling green area. Kelley Mcgough  . And then there was Deena Huff of Foreman Watson Land Title. She made the paperwork into a breeze and was genuine. You can learn about her here Foreman Watson Land Title. I plan to write a more in depth article about our experience but I want to thank them.

For as long as I can remember I spent my life in apartments. Sure I lived perhaps one year in a house, I was 16. For us, me it was one of those impossible dreams. To have a place where I could have that white picket fence (figuratively). I spent month after month shelling out 800 to apartments that eventually screwed me over and I suffered increased stress, depression and even anxiety every time an apartment manager wanted to “inspect”.

It’s not that I can’t keep a tidy home, but I couldn’t keep a perfect home. I no longer have to fear that they’d just waltz in on a bad day. I no longer have to worry about upstairs neighbours. Best of all achieving something this big reminds me that we can have impossible dreams, because they aren’t truly impossible.

Motivation Monday: The Light in Darkness

“Yea though I walk through the Valley of death I shall fear no evil. ” Psalms 23: 4 KJV

Life is filled with pitfalls and places that for a time are ‘The Valley of Death.”  These times of darkness are temporary, be patient and seek the light.

Wednesday Wisdom: Try Try Again

By Damien Knight

Is it worse to fail at something or never attempt it in the first place? You cannot succeed if you do not try. Failing is a part of the process. How can you know you will fail without trying? Ultimately it is worse to never try than it is to have tried in good faith and failed.

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